<![CDATA[ KutongLupaKakanakana! - Blah]]>Tue, 22 Mar 2011 03:46:11 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Love Letter For Someone]]>Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:16:54 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/12/love-letter-for-someone.htmlIkaw ang naging kaganapan ng lahat ng pinangarap kong maranasan.

Naaalala mo pa ba? Pinagtagpo tayo ng panahon sa kanto ng bagong simula. Pareho nating hinahanap ang kapayapaan. Pareho nating gustong magpahinga.

Mapusok.

Sa isang kisapmata, bitbit natin ang mga maleta papuntang Hormiga. Linis ng bahay, linis ng buhay. Bakit nga inaabot ng daanglibo at daang-buwan ang paghahanda sa pagpapakasal samantalang isang kembot lang, naisip na nating magsama?

Ilang gabi nating pinagsaluhan ang mga tanong - o likas lang bang makati ang mga matalim nating dila? Magdamagang huntahan. Paulit-ulit tayong nagpapakilala sa isa't isa. Paulit-ulit ang pagkilala.

Ikaw ba, naniniwalang dapat may kapalit ang pagmamahal? Hanggang saan o kailan dapat magtiis? Bakit hindi na sumusulat ang mga tao? Bakit ang baboy ni ___ magtrabaho? Mahilig ako sa kamatis at bawang. Bakit ayaw mong magbukas ng pinto kapag may bisita? Kapag isang dekada na tayong magkasama, magdamag pa rin ba tayong magkukuwentuhan?

Magkatuwang tayo sa lahat. Sa pagda-drama. Sa pagkanta. Sa pagsayaw. Sa paglangoy. Sa pagkain. Sa pagtuklas. Patay na ang ilaw, hindi pa rin tayo tumitigil sa pagkukuwentuhan.

Gusto kong malaman mo, maganda akong lagi kapag nasa piling mo. Hindi mo man gusto ang imagery, sa piling mo, hubad ako. Hindi ko kailangang magpaliwanag, hindi ko kailangang magpapansin. Hindi ko kailangang magtampo. Habambuhay akong magpapasalamat.

Naaalala mo pa ba ang madalas mong tanong? Ano kayang itsura ng langit? Nakita ko na ang kapiraso nito. Sa bahay natin. Sa buhay natin.

Magpapalit na naman ang mukha ng taon. Utang na loob, huwag kang mawawala.

Maligayang bagong taon. Sana, ibalik sa iyo ng tadhana ang ligaya, pagkalinga, pag-asa at kapayapaan na binigay mo sa akin at sa lahat ng iyong mga anak. At sana kapag ibinalik sa iyo, hindi naman puro galing sa friends (I know... nakakasawa na) kundi sa isang karelasyong paulit-ulit kang kikilalanin at hihimas sa likod mo kapag umiiyak ka na parang wala nang bukas sa "I Sing the Body Electric" scene ng Fame (yung orig).

Love,
Palakang Melodramatic
]]><![CDATA[Christmas Wish]]>Mon, 21 Dec 2009 04:45:11 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/12/christmas-wish.htmlHunyo pa lang, alam ko na ang Christmas Wish ko. Gusto ko ng gift of romance. Isang gesture, isang hand-made something na magpapasirko ng puso ko. I was once, and forever will be, a hopeless romantic. May balde-baldeng compromise pero hindi namamatay ang totoong ako.

Sabado ng gabi, iniinterview si Mega Star para sa Mano Po. Napunta ang usapan sa kung ano ang wish niya mula kay Senator Kiko. Noong sumagot siya, naluha ako. Pareho kami ng gusto. Sana raw mahanapan ni Senator ng energy at panahon na magkaron ulit ng romance sa relasyon nila. Hindi yung uuwi na lang para kumain at matulog. Nagpatawa pa ang mega sabi sa kamera "yun ang gusto kong gawin mo!"

Hindi siguro lahat masasakyan kung gano kasakit ang ganong mga statement. Lalo na ang i-articulate mo ang bagay na kinikimkim mo, hoping na makukuha mo rin siya in one way or another. 


Ikinuwento ko sa asawa ko ang napanood kong interview. Sabi niya, kung ikaw ba naman ang asawa ni Sharon, gaganahan ka raw ba.

Nakatulugan ko ang pag-iyak. 
]]><![CDATA[Trophy Wife - Off The List]]>Mon, 21 Dec 2009 04:36:37 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/12/trophy-wife-off-the-list.htmlPangarap kong maging trophy wife. Nagsimula ito sa pangarap na maging trophy girlfriend. Yung laging ipinaparada, kinakaray kung saan-saan, pinakikilala kung kani-kanino na parang karugtong ng tadyang ng karelasyon. Mailap ang pangarap na ito para sa akin. Pano naman, hindi ako ka-tangkaran, hindi rin kapayatan, hindi rin kaputian, pang-baluga ang buhok... in conclusion, hindi kagandahan. Naaalala ko pa, may mga pagkakataon noong bata ako na pinagagalitan ako ng nanay ko dahil pandak ako. Napakasagwa raw tingnan. Noon, iniiyak ko lang yun. Sana kung nauna ang nakilala ko si Gregor Mendel, natanong ko siya kung saang kamay ng diyos ako kukuha ng tangkad kung hindi rin kalakihan ang nanay at tatay ko.

Kanina, inaya ako ng asawa kong sunduin siya sa opisina sa Miyerkules. Papasok daw kami hanggang sa loob ng kanyang cubicle. Halos pitong taon na siya sa opisinang iyon pero kahit minsan, hindi ko pa nasisilip ang loob. Dun lang lagi ako sa waiting area, hanggang dun lang daw kasi ang bisita. Tinanong ko kung bakit, ang walang kurap na sagot, "para makita nila si (insert palayaw ng anak namin)..." dinugtungan ng "at saka ikaw na rin."

Ang lahat ng mga salita pagakatapos nitong sentence na ito ay hindi na nagmarka. Napatingin ako sa maganda kong anak. Natupad ang mga dasal ni mommy. Kung magtutuloy-tuloy, maputi siya, matangkad, tuwid ang buhok... very charming. Siya ang magiging trophy partner. Gustuhin man niya o hindi, at least hindi na niya kailangang mangarap. 

Ang problema sa katotohanan, madalas nakamamatay.]]><![CDATA[The Luckiest]]>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 10:40:33 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/12/the-luckiest.htmlThanks to Memorysdream for  sharing this song with me. Finally... a time capsule of some sort for the story that WE are still writing.

By Ben Folds

I don't get many things right the first time
In fact, I am told that a lot
Now I know all the wrong turns, the stumbles and falls
Brought me here

And where was I before the day
That I first saw your lovely face?
Now I see it everyday
And I know

That I am
I am
I am
The luckiest

What if I'd been born fifty years before you
In a house on a street where you lived?
Maybe I'd be outside as you passed on your bike
Would I know?

And in a white sea of eyes
I see one pair that I recognize
And I know

That I am
I am
I am
The luckiest

I love you more than I have ever found a way to say to you

Next door there's an old man who lived to his nineties
And one day passed away in his sleep
And his wife; she stayed for a couple of days
And passed away

I'm sorry, I know that's a strange way to tell you that I know we belong
That I know

That I am
I am
I am
The luckiest
]]><![CDATA[13 Relationship Killers: Behaviors that Damage and Destroy Partnerships]]>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:11:17 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/11/13-relationship-killers-behaviors-that-damage-and-destroy-partnerships.htmlhttp://socyberty.com/relationships/13-relationship-killers-behaviors-that-damage-and-destroy-partnerships
by Athlyn Green in Relationships, March 17, 2009

Destructive behaviors that destroy trust and sabotage loving partnerships.

In the beginning, everything’s roses . . . then the thorns start to grow: damaging behaviors that diminish trust and destroy love. Watch out for these 13 relationship killers.

Thorn 1: Not Listening

In the beginning, you both hung on every word, but what has happened as time has gone by? Do you still show your partner courtesy by listening closely?

Thorn 2: Forgetting to Say “I Love You”

Don’t assume that your partner knows you love them. Keep saying it, thus reinforcing the bonds of love.

Thorn 3: Forgetting to Do Nice Things for Your Partner

The song, “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers” struck a chord with many people. Remember to treat that someone special just as they truly are, special.

Thorn 4: Minimizing What’s Important to the Other Person.

One of the fastest ways to destroy a relationship is to fail to pay attention to what concerns your partner. If something is important to them, it should be important to you–even if you are not personally interested in it. You need to make it your business, rather than downplaying it or treating it as though it is lightweight and doesn’t matter.

Thorn 5: Blowing Off Requests

When your partner asks you to do something, do you do your best to do it or do you delay, putting it off and then accusing them of nagging you when they are forced to remind you?

Thorn 6: Criticizing Your Partner

Criticism crushes trust and can make a partner wary. If you’ve gone from being your partner’s best advocate to an adversary, you need to look at what has changed and seek to correct it, before it damages the relationship.

Thorn 7: Snapping at Your Partner

You wouldn’t do this on your first couple of dates so don’t get into the habit as time goes by. Your partner deserves respect–even when you are stressed or angry.

Thorn 8: Accusing Your Partner
Don’t assume your partner has done something. Watch how you phrase your questions. Instead of “What did you do with my . . . ?” or “You must have moved it.” Rephrase this to “Have you seen my . . . ?”or “I wonder what I did with it?”

Thorn 9: Refusing to Communicate or Work at Bettering Communication
Lack of communication has been said to be one of the most challenging relationship problem’s couples face. Men and women have different communication styles; however, it is necessary to develop effective communication patterns because communication works as a kind of relationship cement. When one party withdraws and refuses to discuss problems, you can bet that a whole host of other problems will develop.

Thorn 10: Refusing to Compromise
Some people seem to feel that it’s their way or no way. This might work in the schoolyard but it shouldn’t be part of an adult relationship. Each person has to be willing to give so that a compromise is reached that is satisfactory to both parties. Couples should get stuck on the solution over getting struck by the problem.

Thorn 11: Not Spending Enough Time With Your Partner
In some relationships, the television or the computer becomes the main focus of attention. While there’s nothing wrong with spreading your attention elsewhere, pay attention that your attention doesn’t stray for too long or too often–or you may find that all you’ll be left with for companionship is that television or computer. Not spending enough time with your partner sends a message that they aren’t that important to you.

Thorn 12: Lying to Your Partner

Some people actually believe that they can lie and won’t get caught out. How can you ask your partner to trust you if you lie to them? Do you earn their trust or destroy it?

Thorn 13: Cheating On Your Partner

Cheating is one of the most damaging behaviors around, one that is sure to destroy your partner’s trust. Yet, many do it. If you subscribe to the philosophy that you can love one person and be intimate with another, you’d better take a hard look at the depth of love you profess to feel. If you really loved someone, you would not risk breaking their heart for transitory pleasure. The saying, “But it didn’t mean anything,” will come back to haunt you when you see just what it will mean: separation, divorce, legal costs, loss of friends and family, loss of others’ respect when word gets out.

All couples face relationship issues but how each person decides to act on a daily basis will set the tone for future happiness or for relationship problems. By adopting constructive behavioral patterns, your relationship will blossom instead of being damaged and choked out by thorns.]]><![CDATA[Top 10 Relationship Killers]]>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:04:16 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/11/top-10-relationship-killers.htmlFrom http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-relationship-killers.html

1. Cheating

Cheating is the ultimate relationship killer, and one that the majority of couples won't survive. The initial betrayal of finding out that a partner has cheated is often enough to leave a couple stone-cold dead while the bed sheets are still warm.

And even if a couple does try to work past the cheating, the future doesn't look good for them. By now, all the trust in the relationship has been blown. No matter how much anyone promises there will be no other indiscretions, both people will expect the other to one day fall into bed with someone else.

2. Dependence/independence

Maintaining the right balance between dependence and independence is tricky. Too much of one and people feel smothered. If a couple gets to the point where they have nothing in their life apart from each other, they need to back away a little. Otherwise, one partner will feel the need for space and resent the other for taking their freedom away.

Conversely, if too much independence is asserted, the other person starts to feel lonely. If one partner has an all-absorbing job or interest with nothing but the minimum of time for their partner, things are equally bad. While space and time apart from each other is needed, too much is as bad as smothering -- both end with someone looking elsewhere.
3. Moving too fast

Healthy relationships progress naturally. While not always at the same speed, they tend to move on as both people become more and more comfortable with each other. It's an unspoken, instinctive thing. However, some people seem to lack this instinct and rush to make a blossoming relationship into something it's not ready to be.

No one likes to be rushed. A couple that sees one partner constantly pushing the other to commit before they're ready is a couple that won't last long. Especially dangerous is the M-bomb. Once one person is chasing a wedding the other isn't ready for, an otherwise successful relationship is usually over.

4. The Past

People who live in the past find it impossible to move forward. If one of you insists on comparing your new relationship to previous ones, the future doesn't look good. While learning from past mistakes is a good thing, treating them as a blueprint for every other relationship is not. What you have now is different to anything you've had before, so let it grow free from past screw-ups.

Likewise, dragging the past of this relationship into the present is also damaging. So what if one of you messed up in the first few weeks? There's no point mentioning it in every single argument. If a couple decides to move on from a problem, they move on and focus on the future; the past should always be left in the past.

5. Different Goals

Over time, if a couple isn't careful, they might begin to drift apart. This could be due to a lack of communication as other things, such as careers, become more important, or it could be a symptom of a relationship that just isn't working.

If both people are chasing separate goals, such as one wanting to put down roots where they are and the other going after a promotion which could involve relocating, clearly their future is in jeopardy. When this situation is left unchecked, someone is eventually going to have to choose between their ambitions and their significant other.

6. High comfort levels

After being together for a while, couples tend to grow comfortable with each other -- way too comfortable. They become more like friends than lovers as intimacy becomes way too familiar and routine, and they start to let things slide. Sex falls off the agenda and, before they know it, they've become the person stopping the other one from dating someone else.

7. Annoying habits

We already know you can't like everyone all the time. Well, sometimes this counts for your partner too. Everything about her might be great, but if she has a few annoying habits, be careful. Stupid and trivial as these annoying habits might be -- like talking in her sleep, leaving the cap off the toothpaste and wearing too much makeup -- they can be relationship killers and wreck a couple.

Over time, these habits become magnified until you're angry with her more often than not, and you've talked yourself out of a relationship.
 
8. Persistent Suitors

A couple is, by definition, made up of two people. Throw a third person into the mix and things will start to go wrong. If someone else if trying to get with you or your other half, distrust and suspicion can breed quite easily and can be a serious relationship killer. The effect of this is increased if the “other person” is a lingering ex. If the issue should arise, deal with it as quickly as possible. If you're the one with the admirer, simply tell her you're not interested; being friendly with her could give her hope and permission to stick around longer and toy with your current relationship.

9. Life Stresses

Friends and familyA massive part of your life is made up of your friends and family and, like it or not, the same goes for her. So, not getting along with the other people who share your partner's life can push any relationship to its breaking point. It’s impossible to love everyone she knows, but maintaining “friendly” relationships with the closest people in her life (like her sister and best friend) is important in keeping your own relationship afloat.

The long-running disagreement over politics with her father that has turned serious, the fact that you and her best friend can't be in the same room... at some point, she’ll have to choose, and there’s no guarantee she’ll side with you.

10. Friends and family

A massive part of your life is made up of your friends and family and, like it or not, the same goes for her. So, not getting along with the other people who share your partner's life can push any relationship to its breaking point. It’s impossible to love everyone she knows, but maintaining “friendly” relationships with the closest people in her life (like her sister and best friend) is important in keeping your own relationship afloat.

The long-running disagreement over politics with her father that has turned serious, the fact that you and her best friend can't be in the same room... at some point, she’ll have to choose, and there’s no guarantee she’ll side with you.
]]><![CDATA[Huwag Naman Po]]>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:13:13 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/11/huwag-naman-po.htmlBagong kantang napulot mula kay Abuelita. Kanta raw para sa mga married men, gawa ni Elton John. Nagbiro si Abuelita. Kakantahin niya raw kay Beh (ang aking asawa). Knock on wood...

It's a human sign
When things go wrong
When the scent of her lingers
And temptation's strong

Into the boundary
Of each married man
Sweet deceit comes calling
And negativity lands

Cold cold heart
Hard done by you
Some things look better baby
Just passing through

And it's no sacrifice
Just a simple word
It's two hearts living
In two separate worlds
But it's no sacrifice
No sacrifice
It's no sacrifice at all

Mutual misunderstanding
After the fact
Sensitivity builds a prison
In the final act

We lose direction
No stone unturned
No tears to damn you
When jealousy burns
]]><![CDATA[Lurker's Farewell]]>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:58:22 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/11/lurkers-farewell.htmlRead and fall in love.  A husband pays tribute to his wife. Pinagmalaki ko sa mga kasama sa trabaho. Sabi ko, ito yung blog na pinupuntahan ko kasi kinikilig ako kapag nagaalay ng words yung blogger sa asawa niya. Tanong ni Karen.. Buhay pa ba ang asawa niya?

Hahahahhahahaha! Nalaglag ako sa upuan ko. Talagang ganun kabihira ang gumagawa ng mga ganitong bagay ano? Naalala ko rin tuloy ang angas ni Kaibigang Ziggy several years ago...

"Etong asawa ko, bibigyan lang yata ako ng bulaklak sa lamay ko."

In fairness, nagbigay naman ng bulaklak si Sir kay Ziggy matapos ang isang major tampuhan nila. Agaw-buhay level ang relasyon. Happy ending. Kaso, hindi na natuwa si Ziggy sa flowers. Maghintay ka ba ng sampung taon? Pero keber pa rin. Mas happy na sila ngayon.

Sabi ng shrink ko, dapat tigilan ko na ang pagbisita sa site ni Goldenbhoy. Hindi raw lung cancer ang ikakamatay ko kundi ang pagiging lurker. Etchos. Hindi bagay sa akin ang may shrink. Pero yun talaga ang payo ng aking stronger self.

Kaya ngayon, nangangako ako na hindi na dadalaw sa mga mundong hindi ko maaaring puntahan. Pipirmi na ako sa ngayon. Mas maganda pa rin ito sa kahapon.

A lady-in-waiting must arrest her desires and learn to look away from the divinities of her queen's existence. Hers is the paradise of compromise.
]]><![CDATA[Mga Piping Pagtatangka Awww...]]>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:20:53 -0800http://kutonglupakakanakana.weebly.com/4/post/2009/11/mga-piping-pagtatangka-awww.htmlRecovered from my Photobucket account.
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Kamot 11/01/04
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Once Upon A Time (10/29/04)
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